When you’re in a trauma bond, your brain tries to make sense of the chaos by blaming yourself. You wonder if you’re "too sensitive" or if you're the one at fault. That confusion is the first sign of abuse. This checklist is designed to help you peel back the layers of manipulation and see the "sneaky" behaviors like gaslighting, hoovering, and moving goalposts for exactly what they are. Use this to confirm what your intuition has been trying to tell you: You aren't crazy, and you aren't alone.